Friday, April 30, 2010

Fix the toliet- go on a date












I was fixing the toilet tonight when I decided that I wanted Ted to take a picture so that I could someday show my grandkids that I wasn't just a housewife and a stay-at-home Mom, I was a teacher, car mechanic, plumber, engineer, baker, professional cleaner, juggler, circus performer, taxi driver, banker, doctor, inventor, psychologist, surgeon, vet, professional mover, appliance repair service, physicist, minister, acrobat, researcher, communication expert, hostage negotiator, and so many more. The concept made me laugh so much that I think I came up with my first children's book idea. Don't steal my idea or I will become a lawyer too! :-) Anyway, The toilet is working fine as are the many other things I have fixed lately. I'm actually proud of myself. I think being "dependent" might be having someone else come fix it and then calling someone else to pay for it even though it is ours. (Well, not really...but you get the idea). Just in case anyone else would like to call me "dependent". SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!
Mom came into town today and she offered to take the boys overnight so I got right to work on projects. Ted woke up and thought it would be a great idea to go on a date. We would have no time restrictions on our meal. So, I went from plumber to a girly-girl. I included pictures so that you can all laugh at me too. J/K I thought I cleaned up well. We went to Vitale's and I really had a wonderful time with just my Ted. For the first time in a long time he talked the whole time! I loved just listening to him talk. He has such integrity and control. I'm sure there are no questions as to why God put Mr. calm, cool and collected, yet stubborn, gentleman who sometimes struggles to say how he feels, with Mrs. wild, high-strung, opinionated, passionate, yet stubborn woman who sometimes struggles with not saying how she feels! Ahhhh what a leveling out we do. He told me all about work and EMS and he was so pleasant and I realized how much I am still IN LOVE with him. Not that I was anticipating otherwise. Loving someone and really feeling that warmth of being in love are two different things and I am so happy to be able to say that I am still in love with my husband after 10 years.
Well, my computer time has to be up for now or I won't get anything done.
Prayers for my sister-in-law who is feeling yucky please.
Prayers for Connor who is still sick and Brenda his Mommy who has one thing after another lately and needs something to give.
Prayers that I learn to stop telling everyone to "SUCK-IT" :-)
Sorry, I am in a weird mood. (Although that is really true...I need to stop that!) Kind-of feels good though like when you hold your breath for a long time and finally take a fresh one. Oh, if only I would someday grow up before my children pass me in maturity.....





Ted had to go back to work tonight at 9pm so it's just me and my vicious dog! I think I'll clean until I fall over. If I need stuff I can actually go to the store. I should do it. It seems so odd to me to be able to go this late at night, usually the kids won't let me leave them around bedtime so if we ever need anything, it is a Ted job, but I do need light bulbs.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Coward says what?

I really did intend to take the boys to swimming lessons this morning....really I did. 
Then, I was ready and prepared to sincerely present myself to the woman on the school board... 
OK I am such a liar. I am a coward. I decided to get a mocha frappe and do laundry at Arline's because our water is orange again. I also went and talked with the builder. I wanted to feel like our dream wasn't in the crapper. Mr. Patch is such a great guy and not just a builder. He is a compassionate man. He is patiently waiting, as are we, for the next move we are allowed to take. I'm so glad that the School Boards see our livelihood as a joke. NO really, take your time... my five year old will totally understand that he has to start kindergarten at one school and then potentially move to another school. So kind of you to put your decisions of our child's education on the agenda for another meeting. Lawyer fees add up! I never have liked to have my life in the hands of someone who I knew could care less about me and my family as much as they did our money. When our lawyer fees are more, we have less money for building the home. If the builders don't get the money when they need it, then we run out of time and money to get a loan! It's a cascade of thoughtlessness and inability to feel empathy. We started this in November. We weren't stalling. Currently, I am finding it interesting that the building part of this venture is the least stressful part. Currently, the school boards and the districts political greed is what is causing the most grief! 
Draft written on 4/27/2010


Monday, April 26, 2010

Creature inside


A reporter commented on the school board meeting the other night: Here is a link to her article:
http://www.mcdonoughvoice.com/topstories/x932354132/West-Prairie-Board-approves-new-boiler
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
I have been trying to keep my heart from exploding out of my chest all night since I read it. I wish the school board could hear my side of the story. I wish I could have spoken at the meeting. I wouldn't have said that the Anderson's have "vested interest" in their community. Who doesn't? This is not our reasoning. I wish I could have told the school board that our choice has nothing to do with us not liking or approving of our children going to West Prairie. I actually think the school district is great from what I can see. Our reason for this choice of trying to stay in Macomb School District has to do with a few reasons:
1) First and foremost I can't stand the thought of the boys having to ride so far to school when Macomb schoools are five minutes away. When they would go to High School they would have to drive by the Macomb High School a few minutes after leaving home to drive all the way to Sciota!
2) The property we are building on is three feet away from Macomb School District.
3) Grant is already registered for Macomb, has been going to preschool with all of his friends since he was two and due to some personal reasons with Grant adjustments and transitions at levels of comfort are rather difficult to tamper with.
4) Ted is a police officer in Macomb and due to his irregular schedule he would like to be as close to the children's schools as possible in order to be able to see their sporting events, or to even see them before or after school in general, if even for a few moments. He would also hope to coach track again when the boys get into track as he was a track coach here for quite a few years.
5) With my degree and training I will most likely only be able to find a job in Macomb and for both Ted and I to work in Macomb and the boys caretakers living in Macomb it seems clear to us that the ease makes that clear.
I have nothing against small community schools, I am a product of one. I loved going to Aledo Schools. They have so much to offer that bigger schools simply cannot touch. I hated living five miles from the school district line though. I lived closer to Westmer school district than to Aledo. I spent one hour on the bus to school in the morning and one hour on the way home. It was a waste of time for a child. It was damaging to my self-esteem dealing with bullies and learning horrible things that no child should learn anywhere when they are so young. We worried about school buses getting caught in ditches during bad weather. I had a school bus driver who was a dairy farmer and honestly fell asleep while driving the bus daily. There was someone who always yelled "STEVE! WAKE UP!" To this day I hate it, with a passion, when someone falls asleep in an inappropriate place. He terrified me from grade school through junior high. Thank God I had a cousin who could drive who was four years older, then Dan could drive me and then Darren and I took turns driving each other. But, we lived too far, so we drove too fast and Dan and Jim scared the crap out of me only a little less than Steve.
I have so many reasons, but not one of them is a dislike or disapproval of their school district. I am angered at the reporter who wrote the article because the meeting started with reports from all of the school principals. Was that in the article? NO! I was so impressed with the projects they had worked on and were currently working on. They spoke of how Macomb Hy-Vee donated to an event they had. They spoke of trips and things that the reporter failed to mention. I felt bad for all of the lack of recognition they probably already get. Then there was a presentation of students of the month. These kids were filled to the top with character, integrity, talent and so much more, If I had been their parents I would have been so proud I would have probably cried. It was so nice how they read why each child was getting the award. Yet, this reported mentioned nothing of these great kids. When Ted showed me the article, I was so angered that we seemed to look like we were insulting their district, and that she left out the kids and the hard work of each of the schools. My first impulse was to send a comment to the article mentioning all of the other business discussed at the meeting and all of the kids names who were honored as students of the month. I wanted to sign my name so they could see what I thought was important. Ted told me no; Mom told me no, I'm pretty sure the entire world would have told me not to do it. Once again, I didn't do what my heart told me to do.
Now tomorrow I have to go to the Parent-Tot swimming class with one of the school board members and I don't even know what I can and cannot say. My heart is always screaming for me to be completely honest. I have this internal creature that eats me from the inside out if I feel injustice or that things or simply going wrong and need to be said. I don't know why it is. I feel it is a part of me that I'm not sure I want to get rid of. It separates me from the masses and yes, it pretty much means that almost everyone disagrees with the way I choose to deal with things, but I simply find that I must...almost like it would be dishonest to myself to stifle it. I asked myself today an important question. It was one I honestly didn't know the answer to and I had to think about it.
I asked, "Would you give up being true to yourself, even if it meant that everyone disagreed with you and was even potentially angry with you?" Two very important things to me...#1 Being true to myself and #2 Wanting to please everybody. Funny enough that often means a civil war in my soul.
The very last thoughts in my head at night are often about who I have upset and how I am going to remedy it without selling out myself. I know it sounds selfish, but, it is the honest truth.
Side note: Grant just woke up with hives again. He hasn't had them for about two-three weeks. I'm racking my brain trying to figure out anything different he came in contact with. I just wiped him down with hypoallergenic and unscented baby wipes and gave him Benadryll and that always does the trick. I wish I knew the reason.
Isabella is also having some allergic reactions lately and we are waiting the results for her. I'm sure I join the crowd who was hoping she would sneak past the family jinks of allergies. It could be eggs, but it is still unknown.
Funny story about Jake today. Dude that kid is wild. I remember Grant being that wild at 2 and a half and I gave him time outs all day everyday. That was when Jake had just been born. I can't believe I did that and am still alive. We don't seem to be as affected by Jake. I guess we are used to the wild. He isn't as impulsive and stops when you ask most of the time, but he will finish really fast and run off laughing. He is part evil. He is really sassy. He won't stop with the really rude stuff "shut-up stupid". Ahhh the wonderful benefits of having an older brother who likes to see his little brother get into trouble and hanging around so many other older kids. GRRR!
Oh, Funny story, I forgot:
He came up behind Grant and put his arms around his neck. I thought for a second that I was going to have to keep him from trying to strangle Grant (poor Grant, he is an abused big brother). Instead Jake says so cute, "This is my best friend!" and he gives Grant a kiss on the cheek. The thing about Jake is though, he could do that and then pretend to cut off Grants head with an imaginary light saber. I am so sick of everything being a light saber: Tooth brushes, silverware, my arm, toilet plungers...ok, he is really funny. I could pretend it doesn't all make me laugh but it does. Well not the violent stuff. He is so freakin' funny. He was sitting in the grocery cart singing, "Pants on the ground, pants on the ground, lookin' like a fool with your pants on the ground!" Grant was telling everyone he saw, "Hey, I got 6 shots, really, six whole shots! Three in each leg! I have three band-aids on both legs!"
P.S. I'm looking for a baby sitter Saturday 9am until 5pm and Sunday after church- noon until like 7pm. Any takers? I would like it to be at your house though. $5/hour! $75 for two days!!!

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Cracked me up

"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people."
Eleanor Roosevelt

I know this quote has nothing to do with today's entry but I really liked it so, I posted it anyway. I have always felt so strongly about this and had never really found a quote from someone I thought was worthy quoting. It is such a pet peeve of mine when I get around people and all they talk about is superficial politics, events, sports, etc. ONLY, and never anything deeper than that, and if you start to take the conversation deeper to the ideas behind it all they retreat like a dog with its tail between its legs! Opps, my small mind is discussing people :-) I will continue to use my small mind throughout this blog entry... he he. (I only wrote that to those of you who are hypercritical and will notice that I am about to talk mostly about people today and not about ideas. Thankfully I mostly talk about ideas in my life so I'm free from that judgement... *Jo's favorite statement*)
Off to other topics now:
1) Beth had an interview on Friday and I hope it went well. I haven't had a chance to talk to her yet, so please think about her.
2) Faith learned to ride her bike without the training wheels!
3) My oldest nephew Lucas texted me the other day out of the blue for no reason other than to say what's up! He is so sweet!
4) Connor, Brenda's youngest is having problems with his kidney and so he is going to do back again for another test in Peoria in May. Pray he doesn't get another infection before he gets there.
I wish I had other news, but to be honest, I suck. I haven't called Kara, Kelly, Beth, Amber or anyone to get updates on how everyone is doing.
THANK YOU MOM!!!!!!! Today I cleaned the kitchen. I washed all of the dishes, I did all of the laundry, (even folded and put it away!). I cleaned the boys bathroom and the front entryway. I gathered and took out all of the garbage. I made a meal other than sandwiches. I went through the boys clothes and pulled out all of the clothes that didn't fit and were the wrong season. I even straightened up their drawers. The only reason I was able to do any of these things was because Mom had the WIU accountancy award banquet on Friday night and since she stayed so late at it she decided to spend the night here rather than drive back home. That meant that she was able to be here until after lunch today. Ted got up at lunchtime and then ate with us and she had to get home after that so she left shortly thereafter. I was able to get so much done. Never underestimate the power of childcare willing to watch your children when you need them to and not only when they feel like it. Tonight before bed Ted has been cleaning our room and vacuuming. I think he has the cleaning bug too. Jake is still awake and it is 10:30pm. We are wondering if he is either getting sick or if he is just evil.
I was up late one night do laundry recently and I saw a woman comedian and I thought she was hilarious. I have never seen or heard of her before so I am including a link to some of her bits on comedy central. I know I have said this before, and I know I laugh at pretty much anything, but you have to see this it is soooooooooooooo stinkin' funny. I want to hang out with her she is so awesome!
Oh, I also got an Ipod alarm clock docking station in the mail yesterday and I love, love, love, love, love, love it! Thank you so much Ted. I always wanted my life to have a soundtrack, this is so cool. The kids love the music and I find that it cheers me up and motivates me. I'm pretty sure he did it because he couldn't stand me walking around the house with my Ipod on singing at the top of my lungs, (I can't sing)! If I am blasting the music, he can at least drown out some of my bad singing! :-)
Here is the link to that comedian:
http://comedians.jokes.com/iliza-shlesinger/videos
Make sure you watch all 12 of the videos. The last one is crude but worth it!
If you become obsessed with her like I have... he is another site to see:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4Eliwhnu5g&feature=related

Friday, April 23, 2010

Cholchester School Board Meeting

Written Friday:
Oh how I wish I could have told them that I wasn't opposed to my children going to their obviously well-run school, it was simply a matter of distance and lifestyle. We literally are going to build our home three or four feet out of Macomb school district. It takes us five minutes/ 7 miles to get to Macomb from the farm. When we proposed the possible land (taxation) transfer in order for our children to go to Macomb schools, they looked as if we were telling them that we thought they were a horrible and incapable school district that we wanted nothing to do with. I almost started to cry during the meeting. It was so hard not to speak. I kept my mouth shut because I was unaware of what was appropriate or not in that forum. It became clear to us and the lawyer that they were not going to make a decision at that time nor would it be a favorable one if we had requested them to do so. Our regular lawyer must have sensed my claws and assigned his other partner in the law firm to the case and we click quite well. I love how the non-verbal communication seems to go fluidly. We feel so bad that they may have been insulted by our request. It would mean that in high school they would drive past Macomb High School 5 minutes after leaving home to drive all of the way to Blandinsville.
I guess it is in God's hands now.
I feel most awkward about one of the school board members being one of the Mom's in Jake's parent/tot swimming lessons class. I really liked her, but she seemed particularly insulted last night. I'm not sure she made the connection or not, but I'm pretty sure if I did that she did. I feel terrible. She must have not liked me in the class to be so adamantly and greatly insulted by our proposal. It made no sense to me. I hate disappointing people, and most importantly, I hate disappointing people when I feel I am so greatly misunderstood, which seems to run ramped in my life. Or maybe I am understood quite well and I simply don't understand myself...hummmm. Oh, to ponder.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Strength


"Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strength.When you go through hardship and decide not to surrender, that is strength."

This morning I woke up to a crash. Grant had climbed up onto the counter, (not something I ever let him do, although some people do, so he gets confused), then he fell down while trying to get cookies for breakfast. When I came out he was unscathed and onto his next spastic activity. There is so much contradiction in that boys life that he doesn't even know what is acceptable. I set firm rules and boundaries. No one seems to care what I work hard on. If I came into your workplace and took your work and tore it to pieces it would be the equivalent to people disrespecting me and the rules I set for my boys. Yesterday my 2 year old told me to "shut-up". I told him we don't speak that way to anyone ever and asked Grant where he may have heard that. He informed me that a respectable adult in their life told them to "shut-up" the other day. I wasn't surprised as this same person has told me to "shut-up" before.

Shortly after Grant's crash this morning, I had to make an appointment to get him into the doctor because he had a bacterial infection in his eye. I knew it was bacterial due to the yellowish-green puss coming from his eye. After I had been gone all day yesterday, Ted called me at 5:15pm to tell me that Grant woke up with this. I asked what I was to do now that he had waited all day after preschool, swimming lessons and the doctor's office closing? (Rhetorical snide comment). So I woke up today, (when Ted had to work another craptastic abnormal shift 7am-3pm) and make an appointment not to mention miss Jake's swimming lessons when I am trying to get a job at the YMCA: (yeah that looks freakin' awesome...so dependable). When I called I was glad I did because they reminded me that Grant had his Kindergarten physical and immunizations in like 15 minutes! So, I high tailed it out of the house, realized Ted took the car with my money in it, and made it to the appointment right on time. When Grant realized he was going to get six shots (three in each leg) he flipped out and tried to run out of the office. He is so hard to physically restrain that I have become a master at calming and convincing(manipulation/distraction) whatever you want to call it. It took forever to do, but it got done. I had no money to pay my co-pay, but they know I'm good for it. I then went to get my money from the car at the university, then discovered it wasn't there! I couldn't find my wallet anywhere! CRAP X 3 ! Ted let me have his debit card and I then went get a coffee drink from McDonald's and I thought everything would be OK after that. I was walking into Wal-greens to get Grant's medicine filled when Jake vomited all down himself and the front of me. It just kept coming, and coming, and coming. I had nothing to catch it with and stupidly stood there holding my hand under his mouth as if it was going to catch and hold the gallons of puke spewing out of his mouth. I had no idea he was feeling ill or that anything was off. He was hyper and his regular monkey self all morning. General Jake had been leading his imaginary army of submissives all morning. I looked at Grant and said "go find someone and ask for some paper towels", he did...and came running back with a roll. The cashier brought a bag to put them in and I took off Jake's clothes and shoved them in the bag too. I walked over to the clothes rack and bought some clothes for him so I could get all that I needed without looking like a degenerate. Although the smell of vomit was astounding! Thankfully Grant was in mild mode and didn't ask for one thing. He stayed close and was very helpful. Jake never acted sick the rest of the time. He spent the rest of the Walgreens trip screaming for gum and my coffee.

So, I've had a great day so far! How has your day been? Hopefully better, if not, I'm pretty sure that the world is imploding.

Tonight we have the other school board meeting so that we can wait for them to tell us no. I'm glad to miss my wt. lifting class again so that we can go sit and listen to them talk for two minutes and decide nothing. Not to mention the lawyer should have had this done months ago. Bitter? Yes. Is it annoying you? Most certainly....

I'm venting, so chill okay.

๐Ÿ’” Never Imagined My Life Would Become Such An Embarrassing Attempt Simply to Be Loved the Way I Love.

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